Chapter 3 - The 1st Step to Emotional State Management: Naming Your Fear
Example of Harry begins the chapter (Read together)
- Harry surprised caught in a revenge trading vortex - rational mind seemed to disappear
- ***Just b/c a trader doesnt feel the emotion; it doesnt mean the emotion is not shaping his mind (it is outside of his awareness)***
- Traders must understand emotions. Emotions can be explosive. We have to learn to be mindful as opposed to mindless so we can manage our emotions/mental state in trading
- A lot of the time our sense of identity is under attack while we trade: the need to prove ourselves to someone, have to be better than others, losing is inconsistent with who we are "the man" and challenges our identity (see Harry example), fear of being inadequate
*---Harry solution - push himself to be the best in all he did - sales, sports, etc. If he won, he didn't have to deal with sense of inadequacy. Trading exposed all of this in ways he wasn't prepared.
- Emotions = biological in nature & take over our psychology. They are deeply primitive. Fear will push you to avoid discomfort & uncertainty (important to survival).
--- Our sense of worth & adequacy becomes grafted into the emotion. Hary (like us) avoids all of this until TRADING brings it all to the surface.
- ** Remember emotions are biological, not psychological. If you are trying to "push them aside" they're simply going to blindside you in your trading. They cannot be pushed around.
- Traders have to learn to manage fear or it will overwhelm them and they will not be able to get to the traders mindset led by courage, discipline, impartiality & patience
---Fear cannot be eliminated, but it can certainly be managed so it's intensity doesn't sweep you away (into what Dr Reid calls Monkey Mind or Traders Trance). Avoiding Fear in the long term will not lead to CPT. Traders have to learn to honor their internal struggle with fear. In order to do this fear must be approached, not avoided or attacked. Avoidance = hesitation in trading; Attack = impulse trading.
-- Harry - beginning of story feels large & in charge - gets sucked into impulse trading - feels a huge rush/sense of control/large & in charge.... This state of mind also blinds him to staying with his trading plan & he losses money. After losing - feels frustrated. He could not cover it up or blame anything/anyone. This was a feeling all his life he avoided, but was unavoidable now in trading. Next he feels shame/like cannot measure up....the story he had always told himself & others was not true.
----Trading requires self honesty - Harry was going to have to take a long & hard look in the mirror.
---All people get locked into their "comfort zone" the book describes in more detail why/how, but we all see the world in a particular way and we are locked into this "way"
***Fear constricts possibility. It locks you into predictive pattern of thought & behavior that are effective for the short-term avoidance of threat,
---Basic emotional state management principles must be learned and applied - the body, brain & mind need to be calmed. The 1st meditation last week teaches you how to volitionally breath diaphragmatically. This is the way to "interrupt" the process & that is what we need to do when we are trading. Without the interruption the fear based emotion will explode and take over. This is not the cure, but as discussed last week - this is Step 1
Step 2 is becoming a "Mindful Observer" - we need awareness of thought as opposed to mindlessly drifting through...
---Becoming mindful takes away thoughts power to hijack you.
-- You & your thoughts are not the same.
***Thoughts are manifestations of our deepest beliefs & biases about ourselves, our worth, our adequacy & our power to influence the world. This core material needs to be reorganized to achieve Peak Performance.
- Examining this causes short term discomfort so traders avoid it.
- Until we develop the EQ to face our fears & learn from them; the trader will not produce the trading results they desire.
- By calming fear to a tolerable level; fear can be approached - we can uncover what is holding us back from trading excellence.
- Mindfulness - we separate our identity from historical beliefs we were born into... Freed from the power of our fears; we discover more powerful meaning & purpose in our lives. This aspect of development can be called - reinvention or reorganization of the self.